Let me start this off with – HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I’m honestly baffled that it is 2018, let alone that it’s already 10 days in. A lot has happened in the last month of 2017, but instead of recapping that I’m going to stick to the present and talk a little bit about the future. I’ve read a lot of posts lately about goals and New Years resolutions, but I find myself not really having any. Call me crazy but Courtney sort of convinced me that resolutions are garbage in her cynical kind of way. There is always so much pressure on a New Years resolution, and I feel like in a world where we are constantly growing and changing – how much impact can one vague goal really have?
So instead of a New Year’s resolution, I’m just going to put a focus on the things that matter the most to me. You can ignore all the outfit photos if you’d like, they’re really just a vessel to get my words out (and also because I love chenille and this outfit has been on repeat). But I think my goals of the year all boil down to 3 simple things: my family, my marriage, and my work. It’s hard to see who I would be without each of these things, so I want to make sure I am putting the time and the effort into being the best mom, the best wife, and best co-worker I can be (both at my day job and as a blogger).
Now I’m not saying these things because I think I’m a bad mom, because I mean not to toot my own horn or anything but I think I’m a pretty good mom. I feed my kids, bathe them, take them to their activities, buy them clothes, read them books…all the things good moms do. But I definitely have things I want to work on, and making these adjustments may be a little difficult. One of these things in particular is finding more creative ways to interact and learn with my kids in the short amount of time we have together on school nights. Working an 8-5 job doesn’t give me a lot of family time during the week, especially if you throw in my gym time and the time it takes to cook (and eat) dinner. Maybe I start getting up early and going to the gym in the morning while they’re asleep so I can spend more time with them in the evenings? Maybe I start actually using my crock pot and prepping my meals in advance so I can spend less time cooking when I get home? Or maybe I just start involving my kids more in the cooking process instead of kicking them out and prepping everything solo. I think it’s going to be a learn-as-I-go experience, but my family is important to me and I want to make sure my kids don’t feel like they spend more time with their teachers than they do with me (which unfortunately for working moms…they do).
I also want to (continue) to work on my marriage. ANYONE who is in a committed relationship knows that marriage is hard work. It’s fun and fulfilling and exciting and crazy, but R0me definitely wasn’t built in a day. My husband and I had our 6th year anniversary on New Years Eve, and we had so much to celebrate! Now again, I think I am a good wife – but I’m still a selfish human being and there are things I want to work towards and overcome to make our marriage even stronger. I’ve heard a lot about the couples challenge where you don’t say anything negative to your partner and you only speak compliments and positivity, but I can honestly say I don’t think that would work for us because I think it would almost create a “fakeness” to our relationship? I don’t know how else to describe it but that’s just the vibes it gives me. However, maybe I shouldn’t knock it until we try it! I also really want to work on apologizing. I always apologize for things I don’t need to apologize for, but sometimes I’m stubborn and won’t say “I’m sorry” when I need to. These are all very minute things, but it’s the small things that can make the biggest difference.
I know this is getting long, so I’m sorry to all of you I’ve lost along the way. I’ll start to wrap it up. Work is also a huge part of my life. For those of you who don’t know, I’m a visual manager at Dillard’s. I love my job, and I’m proud of the work I do. I spend 50+ hours of my life in that store, and the people there have become like my family. But I want to start putting more time and effort into another form of work that I love – this blog. It can be so easy to just let the Darling Two sit in idle and not post. However, it is disappointing and it actually makes me sad that when life gets crazy, this blog – our baby – is the thing that takes the backseat. I love posting and sharing fashion, beauty, and life with everyone through this outlet, and I want to make sure I continue to keep it a priority. It’s not work, it’s a joy, and I want to start treating it that way.
Are you still there? Have I bored you to tears? Thank you for sticking with me and letting me get all of that out. And also to everyone who’s stuck with the Darling Two and all of our ups and downs for nearly 4 years. I’m excited for 2018 and everything that is to come this year. It’s going to be a wild one I’m sure, because I mean how could it not with an almost-4 and 7 year old? So stay tuned, I can’t wait to share it all with you!
And as always, all the pieces in this look are linked below!
Sweater | Gianni Bini
Boots | H&M (old, similar here)
Denim | Free People
Hat | Rag & Bone
Bag | Patricia Nash (old, love this version)